Defining the guidelines of a friendship versus a relationship and what is actually considered as ‘crossing the line’ can be a difficult distinction to make from both a male and female point of view. However, for guys it is generally accepted that sex is the crossing point. ‘Sex’- a la ‘I did not have sexual relations with that girl’- can be classified in varying degrees depending on the person you’re engaging with, i.e. snogging maybe just as dodgy as all out shagging.
Many a friendship has been destroyed by drunken or lustful interludes, however, lurking in the back of our minds is that extreme alternative of discovering your soul mate through this kind of behaviour, given that it is often regarded that your life partner should be your best friend who you enjoy shagging.
Personally, I have never hooked into a female friend. But I do have snuggle buddies.
What’s a Snuggle Buddy? Basically, it’s somebody you can walk along the beach with and hold their hand or cuddle watching a scary movie and can basically do anything with, because there is no ‘spark’ involved. You can still have feelings of love for a snuggle friend, but beware taking these things too far. Miscommunications often occur.
A snuggle buddy does sound good, but be warned, this can lead to the dangerous situation of a shag buddy. I’ve never had one of these and wouldn’t be able to – but in some rare situations carefree sex is an option that may be explored. Generally though it is unlikely for this to exist without one of the partners feeling something for the other or someone being taken advantage of.
It is hard to find your female friends attractive without wanting to go there - you can appreciate them and find their personalities beautiful – but as soon as you find them sexually attractive you are bound to get hurt if the other person does not want to go any further and this could jeopardise your future friendship. Tread carefully!
Above all else, I really believe that sex is always best when you are in love with that person and my advice to all of you is that if neither of you feels that way, perhaps you are wasting your time and should be with someone you do feel that way about.
At the end of the day it is a gamble and you should think wisely before trying anything with your mates – you could either find your soul mate and love of your life, or totally destroy a healthy friendship. If you are totally wicked mates you should be able to discuss anything including this sort of stuff. Be honest and don’t play games.
Many a friendship has been destroyed by drunken or lustful interludes, however, lurking in the back of our minds is that extreme alternative of discovering your soul mate through this kind of behaviour, given that it is often regarded that your life partner should be your best friend who you enjoy shagging.
Personally, I have never hooked into a female friend. But I do have snuggle buddies.
What’s a Snuggle Buddy? Basically, it’s somebody you can walk along the beach with and hold their hand or cuddle watching a scary movie and can basically do anything with, because there is no ‘spark’ involved. You can still have feelings of love for a snuggle friend, but beware taking these things too far. Miscommunications often occur.
A snuggle buddy does sound good, but be warned, this can lead to the dangerous situation of a shag buddy. I’ve never had one of these and wouldn’t be able to – but in some rare situations carefree sex is an option that may be explored. Generally though it is unlikely for this to exist without one of the partners feeling something for the other or someone being taken advantage of.
It is hard to find your female friends attractive without wanting to go there - you can appreciate them and find their personalities beautiful – but as soon as you find them sexually attractive you are bound to get hurt if the other person does not want to go any further and this could jeopardise your future friendship. Tread carefully!
Above all else, I really believe that sex is always best when you are in love with that person and my advice to all of you is that if neither of you feels that way, perhaps you are wasting your time and should be with someone you do feel that way about.
At the end of the day it is a gamble and you should think wisely before trying anything with your mates – you could either find your soul mate and love of your life, or totally destroy a healthy friendship. If you are totally wicked mates you should be able to discuss anything including this sort of stuff. Be honest and don’t play games.
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